Tuesday, August 29, 2017


As human beings we become so efficient in taking care of ourselves and our daily activities of living.  We begin to take for granted the luxuries of life and the many blessings we have each day.  There are so many opportunities to grow and learn and create new experiences for ourselves and yet we often are fearful of what the future may bring.

I have been involving myself in some personal growth and belief change opportunities.  As I read and ponder I have become more aware that as challenges appear before me I may not always know which way to go but if I have the WILLINGNESS to move forward it will always pay off for me.  I suppose that is really what faith is.  Being willing to move forward with faith without necessarily understanding what the outcome might be or what may be required of me.  We don't really have to have the answers or know what might happen but the act of moving into action is a benefit in itself.

I may not know how to fix or change a situation but if I am willing to step forward in faith things will begin to fall into place and resolve themselves.  It is not necessary to focus on the outcome but to be willing to step forward that brings the greatest joy. 

Sunday, July 30, 2017


Quantum Psychology says if you can't allow energy to flow, it will yield chaos; but if you let it be, it will reorder and reorganize itself at a higher, deeper & more connected universal level.  If you expand the context out far enough you will find order in chaos. 

Imagine a lake.  If a large rock was thrown into the lake it would cause a big ripple.  If we resist the ripple by placing a circular wall around the ripple to contain it, the chaotic ripple will gain strength.  If we expand the context of the ripple to include the whole lake the chaotic ripple will reach a deeper connection to the rest of the lake.  In the same way the appearance of chaos within an individual system, if allowed, ultimately will take you to the entire lake. 

By including, allowing and expanding the context of individual chaos, infinitely if necessary, a new order is revealed.  This means that emotions must be experienced and allowed "as energy" the chaos must be allowed as energy.  This nonresistance to chaos helps the person to reorganize themselves at a new level.  Stated another way, if you allow chaos, the underlying unity or united field that connects us will be revealed.  LET THE CHAOS BE AND IT WILL LET YOU BE.

                                                                                 Taken from the Tao of Chaos,  Stephen Wolinsky

I read that book many years ago and yesterday as I was looking through my books I realized how much I learned from it.  Everything in our world is energy.  It condenses into somethingness and evaporates into nothingness.  When we resist anything it will gain power and can create a barrier that also may cause frustration or illness.  Last week I read in the news about a family that was caught in a flash flood.  The energy of the water has to find a way to go and if it does not flow freely it builds up tremendous strength and can be damaging to everything in its path.

I love the song that I learned as a child, Row, row, row your boat; gently down the stream; Merrily, merrily, merrily merrily; life is but a dream.  If we can practice allowing the energy to flow through us the chaos will reorder itself and empower us rather than become a block.

Monday, June 12, 2017


Lately I have been using the word enjoy a lot and as I do I realize that it means even more to me.  I consider being In Joy as I use the word.  What is joy?  Contentment, pleasure, fun, excitement and the act of being present.  I respond to my friends on Facebook telling them to Enjoy whatever situation they are in. 

It really is a powerful word.  The world is full of opportunities that we can take advantage of so if we Enjoy them we are living life to the fullest.  When I asked my granddaughter what Enjoy meant she said, "love yourself, be yourself and don't change yourself just because someone else might not like you."  Very interesting.  She is 12.

So I suppose enjoy has lots of meanings and so I want you to enjoy yourself today and enjoy all those around you.

Tuesday, December 20, 2016

Tlhe Christmas Present

I am definitely in the holiday mood this year and everywhere I go people are saying "Merry Christmas".  It seems the times of being politically correct have passed and we are freely expressing what we believe in our hearts once again.  There are always those who don't celebrate Christmas or may have different religious beliefs and I certainly respect that. 

I have never believed that December 25, was the birth of Christ because I was taught that the shepherds we not out in their fields in the winter and that the actual birth was more likely in the spring.  However, for me the holiday time is a special time of celebrating not only our faith but a time to celebrate family and friends.  It is a time to connect with those close to us and give them gifts of love.  It is a happy time for me to reflect on memories and traditions of joy and laughter.

My mother always made a big deal of Christmas and cooked for days.  She made a punch of lime sherbet and ginger ale for the children that we called "Granny's Green Goup."   We have continued that tradition and my grandchildren still ask for it even though they are in high school.  I have started another tradition making my special chocolate fudge.  I make the fudge in a pan that belonged to my grandmother and you can feel on the handle where her hand held the pan.  Those are special things to me that I look forward to each year during the holidays.

I love giving gifts and looking for that special something that will bring a smile to those I love.  We also give to those who may not be as lucky as we are as a gift to relatives.  I look forward to the pretty decorations and the smells of the season.  Most of all I look forward to The Christmas Present.  The gift is actually THE PRESENT.  The present is the most precious thing we have in our lives and it is important to focus on the present moment which is the best of all gifts from God. 

So my wish for you is that you enjoy the Christmas Present and be blessed with the greatest gift of all.

Merry Christmas 

Wednesday, November 23, 2016


I was looking for something nice to put on Facebook about Thanksgiving and how grateful I am.  However, I remember hearing someone say recently that we need not look to others as experts in any field but rather look inside ourselves and see what is there.  So I am looking inside to see what I think about Thanksgiving.

Well, it is a day to celebrate friends and family and express our gratitude.  Today I was cooking with my granddaughter and teaching her about some old family recipes.  We talked about what those recipes that are passed down represent and how they express the love passed down through the family.  I have a really good chocolate fudge recipe and I make it in a special pan that was my grandmothers.  The fudge is not the same with any other pan nor are the cream pies.  As I took out the pan I held it in my hand and could feel where my mother and Grandmother held it.  I told my granddaughter to hold the pan and she could immediately feel in her body the connection with her ancestors.  Wow. 

When I cook I remember my mother and notice how many of the things I do are the way she taught me.  It seems like I am actually visiting with her and I am grateful for all the things she taught me. 

Thanksgiving is also a time to be grateful for our freedom and think of those who have made sacrifices so that we live in a free world.  I include all those in service to our country; the military, law enforcement, firemen and those elected to serve us.  I am also grateful for my friends and fellow Americans.  I am grateful for each person that has come into my life and for the lessons they brought. 

When I awaken in the morning I pray for highest and best for my family, friends and country.  I realize that I may not know what each person needs but when I leave it up to their own highest and best then whatever they need will appear.  So on this Thanksgiving 2016 I wish you all a blessed day.  Thank you for all you do.  

Thursday, October 20, 2016

It Couldn't Be Done

Somebody said that it couldn't be done but he with a chuckle replied,
That "maybe it couldn't" but he would be one who wouldn't say so til he tried.
So he buckled right in with the trace of a grin on his face.  If he worried he hid it.
He started to sing as he tackled the thing that couldn't be done and he did it.

Somebody scoffed: "Oh you'll never do that; at least no one ever has done it."
But he took off his coat and he took off his hat and the first thing we knew he'd begun it.
With a lift of his chin and a bit of a grin, without any doubting or quiddit,
He started to sing as he tackled the thing that couldn't be done and he did it.

There are thousands to tell you it cannot be done there are thousands to prophesy failure.
There are thousands to point out to you one by one, the dangers that wait to assail you.
But just buckle in with a bit of a grin, just take off your coat and go to it.
Just start to sing as you tackle the thing that "cannot be done," and you'll do it.

This was a poem that my mother quoted so often during my childhood.  I just remembered the first few lines but was so happy when I found it online.  The author is unknown so I can't give credit.

However, it is a real pick me up and always encouraged me not to give up.

Sunday, August 21, 2016

Roots & Wings

I have so many friends whose children are leaving for college.  I know this happens every year but this year they are friends of my grandsons so it is hitting a bit closer.  When my son left for college it was difficult but all seemed to be in order and he was ready so I was ready.  When we took my daughter to college I knew that my role was changing and I was so sad.

I had been a mother for over 20 years and that had indeed been the most important role in my life.  I was never alone and life was so full of joys and challenges and yet it was all perfect.  I have always been one to future pace myself and think about when something happens how I will react.  So I thought about next year at this time when my son was s senior and tried to prepare for the changes. My role in life did actually change as each child found their wings.

I honestly didn't think I could breathe as we drove away and left my daughter.  She was so excited about the new experience and new friends and I knew it was the right thing to do but it was so painful.

We had a long drive home and as we drove I began to remember what mother often said.  She said, "You must give your children roots and wings."  The roots are their connection to family, community, country and the ability to stand on their own.  Roots help our children to make decisions for themselves and create resources around them that will support them in the future.

I remember being so proud of my children when I heard them talk about their friends, mentors and other individuals they had found to help them through difficult times.  Some were their age but others might have been closer to my age.  I was so happy to know that they had the skills to create a good support system for themselves.  

All of a sudden I realized that they had sprouted their wings and could fly on their own.  It didn't happen all at once but little by little they faced challenges and they also found solutions for themselves.  I saw those wings appear and pretty soon they began to soar on their own.  As they developed their wings there were many ups and downs but their wings became stronger with each event.

As I look back now with pride I know my mother was right.  Develop those strong roots when your children are young and when it is time they will sprout their wings.  God bless all our children as they learn to soar into their incredible future.